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Qualifications

2022

Schwartz Round Facilitator, Day 1 - Point of Care Foundation
Yellow Belt / Lean LCS Level 1b - Frimley Excellence
Freedom to Speak Up – ‘Speak Up’ and ‘Listen Up’
Level 0 and 1 - NHS Leadership’s Edward Jenner Course

Health and Wellbeing Champion - NHS Health Education England

Suicide Prevention Training - NHS Health Education England

Heath and Wellbeing Conversations – NHS England / Passe Partout
2021
Health and Wellbeing, High Speed Training

Counselling Certificate – Unison / Be-a Education

Parenting, OpenLearn/Open University

2020
Mental Health First Aid Instructor, MHFA England

Mental Health First Aider, MHFA England

Panic Attacks Course, OpenLearn/Open University

Exploring Depression Course, OpenLearn/Open University

2019
Effective Minute Taking, Activity Group/Frimley Health NHS Foundation Trust

Action Counters Terrorism E-Learning, NaCTSO

2018
Prevent e-learning, HM Government / Home Office
Safeguarding Level 1, NHS Health Education England

Level 2 – Supporting Children with SEND, EduCare

Level 2 – Food Hygiene & Safety, EduCare

Level 2 – First Aid Essentials, EduCare / NHS W. Midlands Ambulance Trust

Level 2 – Supporting Early Language Development, EduCare
Level 2 – Introduction to GDPR, EduCare

Safeguarding (Working in State Education), Buckinghamshire Country Council

 

Chalfonts Community College  (September 2001 – June 2007)

3 A-levels including History, IT and Physics

1 AS Level in General Studies

12 GCSEs, grades B-C, including Maths, English, Science, Graphics, History, French and IT

 

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My Story

My Mum was an alcoholic and I was a sole carer until her death when I was 13 (in 2003). In June 2015, I tried to kill myself. I want to tell my story because suicide, not cancer or car accidents, is the biggest killer of men in the UK (aged under 50, ONS) and more teenagers are self-harming than ever before. Staying silent isn't solving the problem but talking openly and honestly, is the only safe and constructive way to dismantle stigma and help others seek the help they need.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The main causes for my suicide attempt was stress and workload at work, since we had lost several members of staff without them being replaced, but the trigger was an incident at work where I defended someone I 'saw' as vulnerable but I came under attack. Without consciously knowing it, I needed to look after that vulnerable person just as I did when I was the sole carer for my Mother between the ages of 8 and 13. She died when I was 13 from alcoholism. My 'damaged' hardware and software of my mind crashed. Once I returned to work, I volunteered my NHS assessments to my employer, saw their appointed Doctor who gave them a list of adjustments (which they only followed one of) and I agreed to be more open rather than bottle things up. I did. We all did.

 

I lasted just over 3 months. The trigger was when I brought something to the attention of my senior Manager and challenged him, just like we are always being told to. I told him he had offended some of the staff and he replied with "I don't care". It set off the same cascade failure we had seen a few months earlier except this time, I asked for help. When I told that same manager I had been signed off due to work he replied "No one else has a problem." He even tried to convince me to resign. I've seen GPs, my psychologists, I've spoken with solicitors and legal teams at Citizens Advice Bureau and ACAS as well as the fantastic team at MIND, the mental health charity. He discriminated against me, I assume because of my disability. I self harmed because of him.  They knowingly exacerbated my condition. If I didn't ask for help they would have my blood on their hands

 

Even though I am so much better, I will always suffer anxiety and depression linked to my condition (Borderline Personality Disorder) It would be great if I could do more interviews like the ones for The Guardian,  LBC  and fill my life positive releases such as spending time with my Wife, Son and being part of the community through the Iver Heath Drama Club .